tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post5803116027756860209..comments2023-10-04T07:16:32.683-04:00Comments on Kristin's Four Kids: I didn't have my A game todayKristin....http://www.blogger.com/profile/04577486067704642675noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-38514952405476653372008-09-21T01:12:00.000-04:002008-09-21T01:12:00.000-04:00As someone who has been in both positions (stay-at...As someone who has been in both positions (stay-at-home mom and working mom), perhaps you'd be willing to share your wisdom on <A HREF="http://mommy411.org" REL="nofollow">Mommy 4-1-1</A>! ;)Tigriswillreignhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12345334720599883081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-50588118566749297382008-08-31T17:04:00.000-04:002008-08-31T17:04:00.000-04:00No one is at their best all the time, especially w...No one is at their best all the time, especially when that time is so soon after you've been sick AND now you're alone, too!!!! Don't be too hard on yourself. Kids aren't as demanding of us as we are of ourselves, at least not in the same ways. Your mom probably even has a different point of view on what was going on when you were little than you do.<BR/><BR/>I think anyone who says that they 100% love being at home is lying. I mean, being at home is great, but it's really, really hard, too, and no one loves every choice they've ever made every minute of every day. There are days when I wish I worked somewhere, anywhere, just so I could have a conversation. <BR/><BR/>Have you looked into any MOPS groups or anything?Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-15299809648290363512008-08-28T09:54:00.000-04:002008-08-28T09:54:00.000-04:00Hugs! I think many of us have been there. It's h...Hugs! I think many of us have been there. It's hard to see any way out of it. Stuff to think on: can you talk to your dh about this? Is there any way to take a day a month to get out on your own, either shopping or taking a class or something? What time do the kids go to bed? can you get some time after that? Not saying that all these things will work, they're just ideas that may or may not work. Often, in the pit, we can't see the way out, so I was just trying to suggest some stuff. When I get down there, you can bounce this back to me, lol.Thiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14215607323324295590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-33225601840368997262008-08-28T09:02:00.000-04:002008-08-28T09:02:00.000-04:00You know where I personally am on the whole workin...You know where I personally am on the whole working mother thing. I work because it makes me a better me, which makes me a better mother. Then again, I have a very flexible job where I can work from home some days, and I have an unbelievable childcare situation.<BR/><BR/>But I truly believe some people force themselves into roles in their lives that make them unhappy because they think it's the "right thing to do" when in the end, it causes more trauma. Being unhappy is permeable. People feel it. Kids feel it. Babies feel it.<BR/><BR/>I just want to give you a big hug. You're not alone and you are a great mother and I truly believe you'll figure out a way to find happiness and balance.AndreAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12102680027953333309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-69158409891286397832008-08-28T08:04:00.000-04:002008-08-28T08:04:00.000-04:00I feel for you -- and think you're very brave to a...I feel for you -- and think you're very brave to admit out loud what I'm sure other mothers feel, but don't say.<BR/><BR/>I work full-time and have since Bear was 4 months old. Every monday morning, I'm happy he goes back to daycare -- and so is he. It gives us the opportunity to miss each other, to be excited to see one another at the end of the day and for him to play and do messy things I wouldn't have him do at home.<BR/><BR/>Good luck in figuring it all out and if you decide that being a SAHM isn't for you,just know that plenty of kids turned out better than "ok" while mommy was working all day. It's the quality of the time you spend w/your kids, not the quantity.Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06669859538951068032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486169617395091403.post-31982815336460332222008-08-27T21:26:00.000-04:002008-08-27T21:26:00.000-04:00oh K--i'm sending you a huge hug. seriously, not t...oh K--i'm sending you a huge hug. seriously, not that it makes it any better, but you are NOT alone. (read through blog land and you'll see). i have days where i am SO very jealous of SAHMs, i really am. i realize it is incredibly hard, but each side (working in or out of the house) has it's pros/cons. this will not be your life forever. in a few years all the kids will be in school. i don't suppose something like mommy's morning out or something similar is an option even if only for a few hours a week?creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.com