Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Resolved

I don't make New Year's Resolutions. The list would be alarmingly long and daunting. There are some days that I can barely manage to feed the kids meals and snacks what with all the fighting and bickering and toys to clean up, so adding one more thing to my "to do" list would put me over the edge and drinking by 9.

However, this year I have resolved to take better care of ME. ME ME ME. Right before 2009 ended I went out TWO DAYS IN A ROW with friends, once for dinner and to see New Moon, and once for lunch and a little shopping at Target and I have to say I was so blissfully happy to be Kristin for those short periods of time. Not Doug's wife or the Mama, but just ME. A me who likes movies and food and friends and books and good lord so many things that I just don't get to do. I know I chose this life~one with a passel of kids with commitments, homework, potty training, etc.~but I also know that eventually those kids will grow up and move onto their own lives and I need to have some of ME around so I'm not a lost wandering soul when that happens.

So, it's resolved that I'm going to take more time for me. I'm not sure yet exactly how that's all going to play out, but I know that I have to do it for myself and my sanity and probably even my marriage. I'm not a good wife or mother if I'm a tired, cranky "woe is me" bitch all the time. A little battery recharge now and then to remember who I was and who I want to be is on tap for 2010.

What about you? One resolution you want to share?

10 comments:

LoriD said...

That's a great resolution! Mine would be to Clear the Clutter... in my house, in my mind, in my relationships.

Brooke Brown said...

I love this resolution! I agree - so important - and a huge benefit! I'll be on the lookout (so keep us updated on the blog) to be sure that you hold yourself to it. :)

PS Another benefit is that it helps demonstrate to our kids the importance of friendships/personal time. If you show your kids that you need time for you, then maybe they'll be more apt to make that time for themselves, too someday (or support their wives in this endeavor). So, think of it as something that you MUST do. Its for the kids, afterall. :)

Brooke Brown said...

PS My resolution is to drink ONE glass of water a day. I think I might go a month without having one glass (I'm a coffee drinker all morning - then nothing else unless I have a glass of wine at night). Hoping it will help my worthless-tired-out brain.

AndreAnna said...

Wear less pants.

That can never be bad resolution.

The Posh Box said...

This is so perfect and so true.. I think I'll TRY to copy you.. not sure I can do it, but I'll at least give it a good try!

Kellie said...

I'm all about Mommies getting time to themselves. I don't feel guilty about it and neither should you. Ever.

I can't wait to read about what you do with your time to just be Kristin :)

creative kerfuffle said...

that's a super resolution! yeah. i hate making resolutions really. listing all of the things i need to change? do better at? yeah, not so much. but, i would like an uncluttered life this year, physically, emotionally, etc.

Thia said...

I read this and identified the truth in it, making mental note that this is a worthy endevour. And then my brain clouded over and I can see no way in which to implement it in my own life. So often I identify with how you feel per your twitter/blog and that's only with three! Now that there will be a fourth...I'm even more scared.
Where does your family (those old enough to know) stand on this?

Astarte said...

This is a wonderful resolution. I would have to add '... and not feel guilty about it', because sometimes I catch myself being too happy doing my own thing and it makes me feel bad, like I should really get back to vacuuming. Blech.

Robyn said...

I didn't make one this year, so I'm going to piggy-back off of yours. It's so easy to lose yourself, especially after having a baby. I don't want to do that this time around.