Thursday, May 8, 2008

Why I need more coffee.

Our house saga continues. Ok, it's not so much a saga anymore. We're still dealing with the tenant issues~the loads of junk they left had to be stored and we had to send them a letter telling them that they have 14 days to come get it. Yes, we actually had to do that by law before we could toss it. Rather than risk a lawsuit in case we tossed something of "heirloom" quality, we complied. LOVE knowing lawyers who help me out. We had a neighbor with a lawn business clean up the yard (as the tenants never even bothered to rake the leaves!), our friendly painter repainted the most heinous rooms, and we had a cleaning service come last week to clean the rugs and the kitchen and bathroom (thank you Mom and Dad). Our open house on Sunday yielded a prospective tenant/buyer, and we have decided to work with her. She loves the house, her two kids love the house, and being there allows her kids to stay in their current schools come fall. I am hoping in the next several months to report that we're under contract to sell the home to her. That is our common goal, so I am breathing a little bit easier about it.

I became "that parent" yesterday. You know the one I mean. The one that the teachers cringe at because you take an interest in your child's eduation. The one that wants the best for her child and wants answers when it seems that isn't happening. But, sometimes you have to be "that parent". Megan has been evaluated on and off this year by the Gifted and Talented teacher at her school. We were not informed of this prior to her first meeting last fall. I don't know how many times Megan saw this particular woman before she even mentioned it to me very off-hand in the car one day. I didn't even know there was a Gifted and Talented teacher at the school. But anyway, I emailed Meg's teacher about it back then to see what the scoop was, and was happy to hear that they thought Meg warranted the evaluations. I mean, what parent wouldn't be excited? And of course we think she's incredibly smart and we're not at all biased (cough cough). Then one day Meg came home crying because the work with the teacher was hard and she didn't finish it. She told me she felt stupid. How do you explain to a 7 year old that they aren't stupid? That they just need to try, and all we ask is that they try? The invitations to work with the G&T teacher stopped coming after that. We were a bit frustrated, but what can you do about it? Then last week, the G&T teacher came to Meg's class to work with her G&T group individually and had Megan read to her. She told Meg that maybe she could come again this week (yesterday). No invite yesterday, again. Meg didn't say anything, but I could sense she was sad. So, I emailed the teacher. I wasn't harsh, just concerned that she is toying with my child. Her response to me today was quick. I won't bore you with the details of her response. Now I have some thinking to do. Do I let sleeping dogs lie, get Meg through the rest of first grade, and not make an issue out of it? Or do I push them to give her another chance, because I think she's matured over the course of the year? It's a hard issue for me, because I loved to learn (until I went to law school and it beat the love of learning out of me) and I want her to love it too. I want her to try her hardest and be proud of her work. She is of course only in first grade and maybe in another year she'll be a bit more mature and understand more of this. Sometimes I think I push too hard, and other times I think that I baby her too much. I don't know where to draw the line. And of course having three other children who need me means that I can't give her the 150% attention that she wants. Oh what fun this will be when all 4 of them are in school.

I am supposed to be working on my big scrapbooking day for Saturday. I have 13 customers coming to scrapbook. I am not at all ready. I have been spending what free time I have playing baseball with Drew, or hanging out with the babies, or going to softball games, or stressing about the other home. Nothing like waiting until the last minute to do things. I'm sure it will pull itself all together, but since my plan was to be all ready by now, I'm a little freaked out.

On the upside, Izzie was better this morning. She ate and drank and didn't cry the minute I put her in the living room. Hooray!


Saly said...

I'm glad things are looking up a bit on the house.

Sometimes you have to be that parent--it's not fair for Meg's feelings to be hurt or for her to be made to feel stupid. You are doing the right thing.

Happy scrapbooking!!!

creative kerfuffle said...

be THAT parent. i don't understand the back and forth of this whole thing? and it's totally unfair to meg. if the back and forth doesn't make sense to grown ups how's it supposed to make sense to her? poor thing. as for the line between babying them and not--that's a tough one. i tend to lean more toward the babying side myself (though the hubs doesn't let me get carried away) simply because i feel like they'll have enough time in life not to be babied.
good news on the house though--i hope she ends up buying it.
on the scrapbooking--ugh, i started a CM scrapbook a kabillion years ago and it's still not done : )

Anonymous said...


Hi, it's Tracy! Andrea gave me this link! How are you???

I say be THAT parent! and GO meggie! The kids are so cute, getting sooo big! Let's catch up sometime soon. I think about you guys often. I am still hanging in, been a rough year(almost) and I'm sure the next month will be tough but, life does go on, and I am doing pretty good!

moosh in indy. said...

Good on you for being THAT parent. However don't be THAT blogger who says law school beat all the love of the world out of you. It makes THIS blogger cry.

Astarte said...

I have friends who had to do the same thing when a tenant suddenly dropped off the face of the earth. Isn't it ridiculous that YOU have to cherish their things more than THEY do?!

I think it's great that you're THAT parent. I think that some people lack basic sense, and leading a little kid on definitely comes across as being nonsensical. It's important that they know she's upset, and that you won't stand for it. Your comments will make them better teachers, hopefully. Besides, think of how bad you'd feel if you WEREN'T that parent, and just sat there watching your kid cry. It's important that she knows you're there on her court.

Marie Green said...

I hate dealing with the school, and I've only had to do it once! I would say to let it be until next year... and have them stop stringing your daughter along! Either she is in the program or she is NOT, but man, don't keep dangling it!